• Lara Gobbi Mindset Coach

Femicide, black and white photos & energy flows.

first things first:

I appreciate you! ️

The amount of replies and great feedback I got from last week's post was amazing! Thank you for your kind words, for taking the survey and for just being awesome!

I guess it really is true, when you make yourself vulnerable, you really do connect with others.

You'll notice that this week's flow is in black and white. Now, I don't want to start getting into a vicious cycle of sad themes, but this one has struck me badly and not talking about it would mean I don't care.

Far from it.


noun. formal

UK  /ˈfem.ɪ.saɪd/ US  /ˈfem.ə.saɪd/

the crime of killing a woman or women; an occasion when this happens

(I would add "girls" also.)

You may have seen a load of black and white "challenge accepted" photos. They all had a secondary meaning which became more mainstream and I was in full support of: women supporting women. However some sources say the challenge began in Turkey, where a women’s rights campaign began as a way of rebelling against the huge violence many Turkish women face. Apparently when a woman gets killed her photo is shared in black and white in the media.

Protests in Turkey broke out after a 27-year-old woman called Pınar Gültekin was strangled, burned and murdered by her ex-boyfriend just 10 days ago.

Femicide is a huge issue in Turkey, with 474 women murdered in 2019 – the highest figures in a whole decade. And due to the coronavirus, 2020 figures are expected to be even higher.

Now, it appears the two black and white photo challenges may have started at similar times and overlapped and lost meaning, as the Insider shares. However I feel like this debate has brought more good than harm, in terms of awareness:

The Istanbul convention is all over social media, people have looked into femicide a lot more (and by the way, there are a very high number cases in many parts of the world - Latin America, South Africa and many more, sadly).. AND on top of the awareness piece above, women have shown support for each other regardless ("women supporting women"). In a way, even reinforcing the awareness piece happening in Turkey.

For me personally, what it has done is made me do a lot more research into femicide (hence the Ted Talk share below), encouraged me to write about it here, and look into how I can help through petitions, social media and change.org donations (it may just be a drop in the ocean, but as the saying goes: we cannot do everything, but we can all do something). 

Before the Ted Talk, let's get some energy flowing with a short flow.


Energy rolls - Animal flow

I talked about energy rolls in my last email. I will show you how they work in action! 

Oh and there is a new move... "levitating side kick throughs" Don't worry, I will show you how to perform it in the video tutorial linked above.

Set (static) beast

Right leg underswitch

Left leg underswitch to

Right leg side kick through

Right leg full scorpion to

Left leg full scorpion

Right leg jumping underswitch to 

Left leg side kick through

Levitate to

right leg side kick through

Set crab

Play with the tempos, slow them down, speed them up and keep an eye on your form.

Repeat 4-5 times.

If you would like some form feedback, just record yourself and send it my way  Very happy to help!


Ted Talk

This week I am only sharing a Ted Talk, I say only because I would have wanted to find a good podcast on the topic, but frankly I didn't find anything extremely informative on femicide. I am very happy to be proved wrong, please share if you have some good content.

I share this particular Ted Talk, because I like how the topic is reframed. For those with little time, it's less than 20 minutes long, give it a go

The speaker, Alice Han (physician), frames femicide as a "pandemic", VAWG (Violence Against Women & Girls), as a virus that can be contagious (through behaviour modelling e.g. abusive father passes traits to son who will in turn become abusive himself). She treats it as a curable pandemic and talks about solutions to 'stop the virus spreading'.


Healthy Habit Hack

Reading/listen to a self-improvement book daily

I am often interested in habits of successful people. By successful I mean fulfilled, serene and why not, even financially free. And guess what? The majority of these people are not particularly intelligent or privileged, they simply have very strong systems in place and empowering rituals of self-improvement.

Jeff Olson, author of the book "The Slight Edge" makes a good observation on the benefits of reading 10 pages of a self-improvement book a day:

"Over a period of just one year you would have read 3,650 pages, the equivalent of one or two dozen books of life transforming material. There is no question after reading 10 pages a day, over a period of one year,  that your life will be changed.”

I have many titles on my list, some I have read and others I am planning to get to very soon, let me know if you want a suggestion!


Weekly challenge

Pick one thing you want to improve on this week and work on it daily.

It could be a movement in the flow, starting to read daily, meditating, going for a short walk.

It doesn't have to be something big.

These challenges are weekly because I want them to be short term for you to experiment. They shouldn't be daunting, they should be part of a journey of self-discovery.

Try doing it daily, track it, and review at the end of the week. How does it feel? Would you want to continue it?


Inspirational quote

“The truth is, what you do matters. What you do today matters. What you do every day matters. Successful people just do the things that seem to make no difference in the act of doing them and they do them over and over and over until the compound effect kicks in.”

- Jeff Olson

🙋🏼Lara out! Until next week!

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